A mood is nothing other than a recurring predisposition for action. Anything we do is because of the mood we're in. Try turn up and be interested in someone you are angered with or offended by. Impossible!
We are always in mood - they are always there in the background lingering. Whilst we can't control our moods we can manage our moods and shift to be in a resourceful mood which predisposes us to more constructive and helpful behaviour.
What is meant by 'resourceful moods'? To answer the question, observe how dominant these moods are in your life:
- Acceptance - a mood that comes from accepting what we can't change; i.e.to accept what is, is what is
- Ambition - a mood that comes from accepting what we can change; i.e. to see new possibilities that previously we couldn't
- Wonder/Curiosity - a mood that comes from accepting what we can't predict or control will happen; i.e. accepting uncertainty as normal
Observe your mood and ask yourself:
- What mood do I observe I'm in and how helpful is this mood to me and others?
- What mood would be more helpful to me and others?
- What different opinions or judgments could I hold to enable me to shift to be in a more helpful mood?
Remember the right conversation in the wrong mood is the wrong conversation!